I fully agree with Biblical patriarchy. You know, where the husband is the head of the house, the wife submits to him, the children obey their parents.
*gasp* 'Esther, how can you say such a thing?! Can't you see how legalistic that is?! Can't you see how your parents and church are controlling you?!'
First off, I don't believe it is legalistic. The Bible clearly states how a family should be set up. How the father/husband is the spiritual leader, the parents have every right to discipline their children, etc. I also believe that many classify things as 'legalistic' because they simply don't want to obey God's commands. That's another topic entirely, so I won't bore you with my rant on that =)
(This post focuses on the the father being the spiritual leader. I'll talk about the roles the husband and wife in another post =) )
Yes, some take their roles too far (look at many of today's cults and false religions). The father is not the only one who can talk to God. Everybody has a right to talk to our Heavenly Father (how else would we be saved?). Talking to God is not just for certain people in the church or family.
Where exactly does the Bible support this so called 'patriarchy'? Well, we can go allllllllllll the way back to the VERY beginning of the Bible when God put Adam as head over Eve.
~Genesis 3:16~Unto the woman He said, 'I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
Eve's desire would be for Adam and he would be the leader of their family. We are still to be obeying this command. Paul repeatedly tells us pretty much the same thing as God told Adam and Eve.
~1Corinthians 11:2~But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Christ is the head of man. Our fathers/husbands are to lead their families spiritually. They are to help their families spiritually grow.
~Ephesians 5:22-24~Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
~Ephesians 6:1-2~Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise.
The husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. I'm not sure how much plainer we could get when it comes to spiritual roles of the family. As children we are to honour and obey our parents unless they are asking us to commit a sin. Children are to submit to their parent's God-given authority.
Colossians 3:18, 20-21~ Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.
Again we see Paul telling woman to submit to their husbands and children to honour their parents. He also tells the fathers to not provoke their children to anger or else they will be discouraged. The fathers, as leaders, are to be uplifting and encouraging us in our spiritual life, not critical.
So, yes, I believe the father/husband is the leader of the home, aka Biblical patriarchy. I also think it can be taken too far where some are taking advantage of their God-given roles and I don't agree with that. My daddy is the leader of our home and I respect what he has to say and I expect him to lead us spiritually and to help us grow.
It's not legalistic, it's a God-given command!